Over two years ago, when I first began dating someone new, I wrote and asked for your advice. You told me to basically quit being an idiot and stop making issues where there were none. I followed your advice.

The other day, I was e-mailed a link to an old column of yours. The column was on age difference, and it contained the note I wrote. The person who sent me the link is now my wife. We are living happy, blessed lives together, and I just wanted to say thanks again for the sage counsel.
Kirk

Kirk,
We remember your letter. You were a divorced Army officer, 42, on your last tour, and she was a young woman, 23. When you met, each assumed the other to be late 20s. You were enchanted, but when you learned her age, you backed off emotionally. She didn’t see the problem. Two days later she e-mailed you, and the rest is history.

When there is a significant age difference, what matters is that both people are adults when they get together, and they have that connection which is love. A woman, whose older husband is now deceased, wrote us: “If ever there were two people who completed two halves of a whole, it was us.” She added, “What a ride it was. I thank God that He brought us together.”
Wayne & Tamara